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The #1 Tip for Parenting a Child With Special Needs

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#1 Tip for Parenting a Child With Special Needs

No matter if your child is typically developing or you have a child(ren) with special needs, we have the best parenting tip that will help you every single day! And guess what?! It’s a super easy concept! However, a challenging one to implement!  Want to know what the #1 tip for parenting your child is?

SELF CONTROL AND MANAGING YOURSELF!

All kids need a calm, loving caregiver who is present and can manage their own emotions.  Being a caregiver is STRESSFUL and when we project that stress outward, our kids pick up on that behavior and emotion and have a hard time regulating themselves.  Remember- kids observe our ACTIONS more than they listen to what we tell them.  They are watching how we react, how we respond, and how we manage ourselves.  When we set a positive example for them in our everyday lives (for example, how we react to stress, how we talk to others, how we talk about ourselves, how we handle problems, etc.), they set this as their model.  When we are out of control there is a good chance that our child(ren) will be out of control!

Other Contributing Factors

In addition to managing our own emotions and behaviors, there are many reasons why a child may display negative behaviors:

  • Lack of sleep
  • Inconsistent schedules (i.e. holiday season, summertime)
  • Lack of routine
  • Overstimulation (from their environment or other people)

Other Parent Tips and Techniques

It’s important to manage these outside influences as much as possible to help encourage better regulation in our children.  During times that we know schedules and sleep may be affected (i.e during the holidays or during the Summer), we can use the following parenting tips and techniques to help our children with self-regulation:

  • Use visual supports (visual schedules)
  • Use a social story that outlines a particular event, holiday, or season. Here are some free holiday social stories you can use to help prepare your child for unexpected events.
  • Decrease the amount of stimulation in the environment by using noise canceling headphones, a weighted blanket, and build in time for sensory breaks (deep pressure input, mindfulness, calming music, etc.).

Parenting Tips and Techniques

Our children depend on us to help regulate their emotions and behavior.  What better way to model these things for them!  Here are some easy ways to manage our own behavior and carryout the #1 tip for parenting a child with special needs:

  • Build in time throughout the week and day for your own self-care- this may be getting enough sleep each night, setting aside time in the morning before everyone wakes up to take 5-10 minutes of meditation time, setting up a workout/exercise routine, setting aside time for your own hobbies.
  • Find ways throughout your day and week to laugh and find humor in situations.  Both smiling and laughing have been studied extensively for centuries- showing laughter and smiling produce inner happiness.
  • Give up on perfection and the need to compare yourself to others on social media.  Give yourself a social media break- detoxing from social media can remove unnecessary noise and the negative emotional triggers often caused by comparing yourself to others.
  • Focus on connecting with your family and kids daily.  Spend quality time with them each day- give them a hug, go for a walk, read a book together, spend time just talking each night before bed.  If your child is non-verbal, spend quality time together by engaging with them in something they find joy in!
  • Count your blessings! Writing down what you are grateful for changes your mindset.  Instead of looking at all of the challenges in your life and the things your child has not yet mastered, focus daily on one thing that is going well or one thing they are successful at!
  • Take a look at your expectations- ask yourself- are they unrealistic?  If your child is 2 years old, can you truly expect them to sit and attend for longer than 5 minutes? The answer is NO!  If your child is non-verbal, can you expect them to communicate their wants and needs effectively? When someone does not live up to the expectations you have set in your mind- that is when you become disappointed and upset.  Do a reality check on your expectations!
  • Lastly, and most importantly, when your child is acting out or behaving in a negative way, KEEP YOUR COOL!  As a caregiver it is super easy for us to lash out, raise our voices, or “punish” our child when they are really trying to communicate something to us.  The more we are able to keep calm and maintain our own composure, the better outcome the situation will be!  When your child goes into meltdown mode, check yourself- how am I feeling, what emotions are going through me, what is my child trying to communicate, what are my actions saying to my child?.  This is tough, I know, but SO important for our children!  How we deal with stress is how they will eventually deal with stress.

So, take a deep breath, count to 10, regroup, and remember your child has big emotions and needs lots of love during this time! Managing yourself, your emotions and your own behaviors is key! When hard times occur, the parent or caregiver’s response affects the likelihood of the behavior happening again.

If you need help creating strategies for your child to help manage their daily routines, please reach out to us! We are here for you!

Blog Written By: Cindy Taylor, MS, OTR/L

Cindy Taylor

Prep Academy Program

Should My Child Be Using a Visual Schedule?

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What is a visual schedule?

As adults, many of us live by our planners. We gain satisfaction from marking off our to-do lists and being organized with our daily activities. Children are better able to learn, grow and adapt to changes using this same strategy! Although there are many types of visual schedules, they all typically contain images, symbols, photos and/or words to better communicate a task or activity. Depending on your child’s age and specific needs, their visual schedule may contain activities by the minute, hour, day or week. For example, if your child requires more structure, they may use a visual schedule that uses “first, next, then” language to communicate activities for the next few minutes. If your child requires less structure with their daily activities, their visual schedule may list tasks by hour for an entire day. Check out these examples below!

 

Carolina Therapy Connection Visual Schedule Example Autism

Carolina Therapy Connection Visual Schedule Example

What are the benefits of a visual schedule?

Visual schedules are a powerful tool that can help kids perform complex tasks, organize their day, or follow a routine. Here are a list of benefits that result from using visual schedules:

  • Visual schedules provide structure and predictability. Has your child ever become upset because they didn’t want to complete a task or weren’t expecting an upcoming activity? Visual schedules provide a consistent reminder of what activity is next and can show a reward that follows a non-preferred activity. For example, if your child doesn’t like bath time, they can use their visual schedule to understand they will get to watch their favorite TV show following their bath.
  • Visual schedules encourage independence. Once your child becomes comfortable with using their schedule, they can help create it and plan for each day. It will also allow them to select preferred activities or rewards between non-preferred activities. When a child helps create their own schedule, the sense of independence promotes completing activities without being asked to do so.
  • Visual schedules reduce negative behaviors and meltdowns. When kids know in advance what’s happening, it can help them feel more in control and at ease. If there is a change in their routine, they can plan and prepare themselves for that change.
  • Visual schedules work with your child’s visual strengths. Although visual schedules can use words, pictures and symbols often times create ease for reading a visual schedule. You can also use pictures that are specific to your child’s household or routine. For example, you can use a picture of their favorite book using your phone camera instead of a generic or cartoon book.
  • Visual schedules teach a variety of skills during childhood development. Visual supports open the doors of communication, increasing your child’s ability to interact with his or her surroundings. Creating and utilizing visual schedules promote visual motor skills, fine motor skills, organization, positive self-esteem, decision making, and a wide variety of executive functioning skills.
  • Visual schedules can be used for more than just sequencing activities. You can use visual prompts similar to visual schedules to break down one task into steps. For example, if your child has difficulty with sequencing the steps of toileting, they can use a chart similar to the one below provided by A Day In Our Shoes.

Carolina Therapy Connection Visual Schedules Autism Greenville NC

Tips For Implementing a Visual Schedule With Your Child

  • Before using the visual schedule, ensure that your child understands the purpose of it and how to use it.
  • The schedule needs to be manageable. Start with a small schedule that only contains a few tasks and uses language such as “first, then” or “first, next, then.”
  • Mix preferred activities with non-preferred ones. This helps to motivate children to persevere through non-preferred activities.
  • Personalize the schedule with their favorite characters or colors. Use pictures of your child’s specific toys or items in the household. If your child is able, let them help create it!
  • Cue your child to use the schedule or ask them to check it when they begin an activity. Repetition is key!
  • If your child gets satisfaction from marking off completed activities, place a check box beside each task.
  • Use these instructions for tips on creating your own visual schedule at home.
  • This awesome resource from A Day In Our Shoes has plenty of FREE visual schedules you can print from the comfort of your home.

How can Carolina Therapy Connection help?

At Carolina Therapy Connection, we offer pediatric occupational therapy to addresses concerns with things such as self-care skills, including feeding, bathing, and dressing; fine motor skills, including writing, tying shoes, and picking up small objects; neuromotor development; and sensory integration. Our occupational therapists can work with your child and family to ensure they are using the right type of visual schedule for their routine and help them create the perfect one just for them! Our experienced therapists can help your child use a visual schedule in the clinic, as well as carryover of using them in the home or school. As our team of specialists work to help your child reach their goals, you will begin to see remarkable changes in their skills and abilities. More importantly, you will see the happiness, confidence and sense of independence this brings to your child, and the peace of mind this brings to your family.

If you have any questions regarding visual schedules or your child’s development, call Carolina Therapy Connection at 252-341-9944 to speak with one of our occupational therapists! We currently offer occupational therapy, physical therapy and speech therapy in Greenville, Goldsboro and New Bern, NC. 

 

Carolina Therapy Connection Autism Visual Schedule Greenville NC